Dating a borderline personality woman

17 Oct

Whereas Diane had cut down severely on her drinking beginning with her first pregnancy, Michael drank two or three cocktails every night, which he justified as providing relief from his stressful job as a financial adviser.But as Diane explained, “If Michael gets into one of his moods, his cocktails only make it worse.” Men with BPD Michael suffers from .

Michael then proceeded to stomp around the house, upending a chair and further frightening the kids. At that point, fearing for what might happen next, Diane called her best friend, hastily dressed the children, and spent the night there.In our first session he opened up and told me that he was, frankly, worried that his behavior and attitudes, if unchecked, could drive Diane away. He did not want to lose his marriage and family—so in his words he was “ready to talk.” What this talking led to was my understanding of how Michael’s past had shaped his adult personality.His father had abandoned him and his mother when Michael was five. His mother, who was an alcoholic, subsequently married and eventually divorced another alcoholic, who was hostile and abusive to Michael.One reason why men like Michael are often misdiagnosed is because BPD typically manifests itself in different ways in men than it does in women.Here are a few examples of how BPD manifests itself in men: When Michael accepted my suggestion that we meet individually for a while I was both surprised and pleased.